Bear With Me

If any of you read the name of my blogsite and expect something like Ward Cleaver’s den, or Father Knows Best den, (just dated myself again.) forget it!  No comfy sweaters with leather elbow patches here.  This den belongs to a grumpy old bear who is roused occasionally by folks doin’ stupid stuff.  Then I shamble out and growl and wave a front paw to show my displeasure.  “You damned kids get off my lawn!”

I thought when I started this, that I might be like BrainRants, but I soon realised that I idled at a much lower R.P.M.  Perhaps it’s the extra 25 years of immunity and experience.  I’ve come to realize that continuous ranting doesn’t accomplish that much.  It’s like Charlie Brown used to say, “It’s like peeing yourself in a brown suit.  It gives you a nice warm feeling, but nobody notices.”  Not that Rants, or anyone else should stop ranting.  The world CAN be changed, slowly, a bit at a time, but, any single rant, no matter how loud, can do little against the inertia of billions of unthinking, uncaring fools.  It’s like two elephants having sex.  There’s a lot of noise and dust raised, but nothing actually happens for a long time.  It takes a Ghandi or a Martin Luther King or a Winston Churchill, and even they had to fight against strong currents.

I was heartened to see the thousands of Occupy participants, and in so many cities.  They are still few, compared to “the Establishment”, and they are/were fragmented and un-led, but I hope that some of the more astute politicians and businessmen see the writing on the wall.  They are the canary in the coal mine.  The tipping point is still far off.  It’s not quite time to storm the Bastille, shouting, “Off with their heads.”, but, it was a warning, so keep ranting.

Be nice to your fellow man.  Go a little out of your way to make his/her life a little better, a little easier.  Oh, I’m not talking to the small, select group who actually read my stuff when I get around to doling out a bit more unexciting pap.  I’m talking to the huge, imaginary readership I wish I had.  In a production seminar, the instructor stressed the importance of “ready for the next user”.  This applies whether it’s the next guy on a production line, or the next person you meet (or, perhaps never see) at a supermarket.  Rants and I have both recently posted about the importance of THINKING.  Think about who will be affected by anything you do.

Supermarkets and parking lots seem to be where I witness most of the, Man’s Inhumanity to Man, that I see.  That’s probably because that’s where large groups of people inter-react with each other in a concentrated space, usually badly, inconsiderately, selfishly.  The driving and parking of some (most?) people, both inside and outside, just drives me berserk.  Both my wife and my daughter are semi-handicapped.  We rate one of those blue and white wheelchair cards for the windshield, so handicapped parking spaces are important to me.  If I’m alone or with my son, we never use them, even though I’ve got the magic key.  He and I can walk in from the back if we have to.

Shopping carts and what to do with them after you’ve loaded the groceries into your car.  DON’T stick them in the handicapped parking spot!!!  Really!  People do that!  Back when I was working, I had a week of three to eleven shift.  I got up one morning and rode my motorcycle down to the nearest plaza.  I got off the bike and was divesting myself of helmet, gloves and jacket.  As I stood there doing this, a smartly dressed young woman near the end of the row loaded some stuff into the back of a hatchback and pushed the empty cart across to the next row and shoved it into a handicapped spot.  Not across the top of the spot, or up the side of it so that a handicapped person might still be able to get into it, but smack-dab in the middle of it.  As she walked back to her car, I yelled at her, “Hey! don’t leave it there.  That’s a handicap spot.  Put it in the cart corral where it belongs.”  The corral was three spaces towards me.  “I’m busy.” she replied, and kept walking.

While she got busy, getting into her car, starting it and getting her seatbelt on, I got busy with the cart.  I quickly grabbed it and walked it straight at the back of her car.  I turned it sideways and walked back and leaned on my bike.  She came slithering out of her car with her Medusa face on.  If looks could kill, I’d have been a puddle on the parking lot.  I smiled, looked at my watch and said, “I don’t have to be to work till three.”  You know, she wasn’t as busy as she thought she was.  She had the time to take that cart and put it where it belonged, out of everybody else’s way.  On her way back to her car for the second time, I noticed, hanging from her neck, a beautiful 3 to 4 inch silver crucifix with jewels.  I’ll expound on “good Christians doing only good deeds” in a later post.

I always try to make the life of the person “next in production” behind me a little easier.  Sometimes I can offer a bit more, sometimes a bit less, but it is always a pleasant surprise to see how, even a little consideration for others can evoke such happy reactions.

7 thoughts on “Bear With Me

  1. H.E. ELLIS says:

    I like this post. Everyday I hold myself accountable to find at least one person to do a good deed for. Generally I make that one person somebody mean or angry. I like to think that he/she is truly a good person who is simply having a bad day, and maybe a small bit of kindness from me might make a difference to them. At the very least I hope it will stop the negativity flowing onward and in that way I affect a number of people positively. It may sound silly, but I like to believe it helps.


    • Archon's Den says:

      Yes, it does help, and thank you for doing it. Pay it forward. Too many people live inside their tiny, selfish, uncaring selves. It takes so little to brighten someone’s day.


  2. BrainRants says:

    That sounds like something I’d do to some asshat being irresponsible, but with more colorful words.


  3. cwc6161 says:

    Arch, I knew that I loved you, though I never could quite figure out why. This post told me why. Your twenty-five additional years of immunity (first time through, I thought you had written “impunity” … lol), which place you in the same “born when dinosaurs still roamed the earth” birth decade as me, have created a pretty darned nice human being, rants and all 🙂


  4. kayjai says:

    Nice post. I had a longer version of thoughts, but it’s just too long. I see the grocery store stuff, but not as much here. We all have a sense of community that is innate to this area, that I believe is missing in other parts of our fair nation. Sad, but true. We take care of each other here. Handicapped parking spaces are left for just what they are intended for and most people here are respectful of that. We would park on the grass before parking our asses in one of those spots. I think we need to get back to some basic teaching of the word ‘respect’ and what it means….


  5. Archon's Den says:

    My version was too long also. Part two will follow soon. I told you, I’d be a Newf any day. Nice folks. Kitchener has grown hugely in the 45 years I’ve been here. With Cambridge and Waterloo, population runs over half a million. More room for people, less room for consideration. Kinda glad I don’t live in Toronto. They shoot people there.


  6. Sightsnbytes says:

    Charlie Brown said the thing about peeing yourself? Is this the Charlie Brown of Snoopy fame? Good Grief, I hope not.

    As for shopping carts, I get pissed when lazy morons push their carts into open parking spots. God knows these spots are hard to find, and from time to time, when I get out of my car to move the cart, some complete idiot drives into the now vacant spot. I can only imagine the frustration you must feel.

    finally, nowadays, wearing a cross is like wearing any other type of jewellery. Heck, I once bought a used mini van from a Salvation Army preacher. The damn thing was a piece of crap that this guy unloaded on me before leaving town…so much for the higher power I guess.


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